So I ignored the signs about identity. I waffled back and forth trying to create privacy on important things like home addresses while trying to maintain my brand. In a way I was forced into it. Whenever anyone hears the name Silona and they know me – they assume it is me. It’s a reasonable assumption. But when some students of mine discovered silona.ch, I realized I had more to do. Silona.ch was a porn site for a dominatrix in the Czech Republic. Unfortunately she never showed her face and hard dark hair and a similar build to mine. Everyone seemed to believe me that it wasn’t me but.. the seeds of doubt were there. I knew I had to work more on creating and preserving my own identity. And I was tired of addressing the issue – “no that isn’t me…”
So I gave up on privacy. For me it had become a lost cause. So many sites and agencies wanted my address and phone. It had accidentally been published. So many things depended on my SSN and name. I had already been stalked once and because of that Dad and I had done concealed handgun classes together. (Yes I own 4 guns. Yes I am a Texan and a military brat.) I realized privacy as secrecy was a thing of the past – it just took me awhile to completely accept it.
I know it’s hard. I mean I do large scale databases for a living.
So I went looking for a way to fix it… my first attempt was a royal failure. I realized things don’t just need to be available. They need to be equitable.
As individuals, the electronic medium was forcing us to be transparent to businesses and government but they did not have to report back to us.
I decided to strive to create more equitable relationships. Step was get government transparent… step two was business. But I didn’t tell many people. See in 2004 in Texas – most people already thought I was a little “unrealistic.” (to put it nicely.)